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2 aprile 2011 6 02 /04 /aprile /2011 14:49

Maybe is for the sun, or for the warmer temperature.

I don't know, but only a couple of weeks ago I was having trouble with my husband, I felt uncomfortable everywhere and I was always nervous. I thought it was the premature end of my wedding and of my life.

Now everything is different, I'm more relaxed and I'm able to do everything I have to during my days.

We went to Turin and it was lovely. We have had some dinners with friends and relatives and my work is going on not so badly. We have also decided to have a journey in Stoccolma, on May.

Moreover, this will probably be a nice week-end becouse we are planning our summer trip to Scotland! I'm so excieted.

I've always desired to go to Scotland and we should do it last summer, but we have been quite busy.... So this is a great moment for us!

And last night I've had a very nice dream...

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12 marzo 2011 6 12 /03 /marzo /2011 14:22

Things are not going well. My life has taken a bad tum. I'm always nervous and I frequently overreact for stupid things. I can't go on this way: I'm jeopardizing my own existence and the one of my husband. 

I know I'm becoming impossible, we have a row almost every two days. He's tired of me, I know. How could he not be with a wife who mumbles and yell out every day?

Oue marriage is becoming deeply sick, I know I'm screwing up everything. I am so sorry, this is not the end I thought for us. We've been toghter for twelve years and I've always thought that wedding should be the right choise for us. I thought everything should go well: we have had our problems in the past, like every other couple in the word, and we always went over. But now I must realize that something has been lost. I feel guilty for how I'm damaging his life: he should be happy and live in peaceful but I suspect he's beginning to hate our living togheter.

Sometimes I hate it too and this is only my fault. I hate it not for itself but for what I'm doing against it. I hate it because I'm screwing it up. I should be by myself because in this very moment I'm unable to mantain human relationships. What can I do now? I recognise every responsability on myself and I take the blame. I know I am the only one who is destroying our happiness. I know he has no fault. What can I do now? I'm not able to resolve the problem, I'm not able to control my fury and I'm not able to avoid overreactions, although I perfectly understand when I'm crossing the bounds.

He's seriously wondering what to do and he admits that is life now is sad. I'm the main responsible of his sadness while I should do the exact opposite. I hate myself for I'm unable to live my life. We have had two difficult years, full of stress, and I've lived in an incredible state of uncertainty. Sometimes I have been really near to go crazy, but it did't happen. Now, anyway, the level of stress is decreased but the state of uncertainty has remained with us and for me this situation is probably too hard to be carried on. I'm not the kind of person who can face it and still keeep living normally. 

Sometimes I think I should die for my life has no sense and I feel useless. I should leave everything and stay by myself, at least for a period. Maybe I need some help, I don't know.

I take the blame but in my defence I must say that he doesn't understand my problems, at least frequently. For him, I probably am simply hysterical. He thinks I often act in a way that does contribute to damage myself and he thinks that I do it with a kind of satisfaction. This is quite wrong as I really would like to live in peace. And so I have always to justify myself and always to conclude that I am the only one who is wrong. Always.

I am so tired. And every day is worse than the precedent. I can't go on this way. My life is becoming intolerable and I'm afraid sometimes I may do something terrible to myself for I hate me every minute with much enphasis.

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6 marzo 2011 7 06 /03 /marzo /2011 17:36

I’m on the train leaving from San Giovanni VD, a small town between Arezzo and Florence. I’ve just had lunch after a quite interesting morning spent in helping my boss with her students. I don’t want to bother you here neither with what I’ve done this morning, even if I found it amusing, nor with the description of San Giovanni train station, which is as small as probably it was the one in Albinia, but has got a nice bar where I’ve bought a tasty hot sandwich with Arabic bread, ham and cheese.

I’d like to talk about my private life, as usually I do. Yes, because I generally spend all my working days in thinking about my job and in having trouble with it and I want to maintain this specific space as my private one. Also I passed last week-end studying for today and I don’t want to lose any more time thinking about science.

My private life.... yep! I’m going to my parents’ home for dinner because my husband leaved for Cambridge yesterday evening and I’d be alone at home. So I’m travelling in a sunny and beautiful countryside to reach the house of my relatives. I’m glad. I’m enjoying this very quite train with few people, a nice sunny afternoon and I’m preparing myself to have a great dinner as my mother is an expert cooker!

The only problem is the absence of my husband: he will be away for a week, which is actually not too much, I know.... but I don’t like it anyway. I would love to be in Cambridge with him, I miss England so much and I know that in the very next months in Cambridge all the parks will be full of green and flowers and all the atmosphere will be so similar to Wonderland... as spring in England is incredibly charming. But I’m planning to go there in April, maybe during Easter!

Coming back to the original subject of this article, my private life, I’m happy to say that this afternoon I’ll have a lot of free time! I think I’ll have chats with my mother and one of my sisters, I’ll go in some shops to buy some stuff for home (we still have a long list of things to be bought) and, of course, I’ll kiss my cats! Talking about my cats makes me usually glad, but not in these days. In fact, one of our cats recently disappeared and my relatives are still looking for him in the area around home. This evening I’m going to look for him too.

In any case, what I would like to say here is that I love countryside when spring is coming.

 

 

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18 febbraio 2011 5 18 /02 /febbraio /2011 16:44

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"It is said the effect of eating too much lettuce is soporific".

This is what Beatrix Potter told us from the pages of one of her lovely books, "The Tale of the Flopsy Bunnies".

 

Well, I was wondering if it's true. I really would like to have a conversation on this topic with a rabbit.....

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17 febbraio 2011 4 17 /02 /febbraio /2011 15:06

Here I am: I've been so busy in the last days that I almost forgot my good blog! That was a pity because writing here is like a source of fresh air for me as this is a private space far from ordinary work and daily troubles. So I missed it very much.

Now, welcome back indeed. We finally settled in our new flat (since last January 28th), which is quite nice but not so pretty as it was our home in Cambridge: in particular, I'd like to have carpet. And it sounds incredible, as usually italians do not like it, but I think my rooms may be more confortable and cosy with carpets. Anyway, the flat is almost furnished, we need just a little sideboard in the kitchen and a cupboard in the hall. And, of course, something to personalize the hall. But I think by the next March everything will be perfect!

I have arrange every room with different colours: the Bathroom in blue (and it's really lovely. Also, it has access to a little terrace in wich I keep my flowers), the Bedroom is red and brown (quite serious actually), the Living Room is green (peaceful) and the Kitchen is red/orance (they are colours that remind me to sweet countryside). I'm proud of this colours: they're a good team.

We are now trying to come back to our previous habits and so we have started again with our books on the bedside tables, with our TV series (we are now on the second season of "The Tudors", which I love for it describes quite honestly that piece of english hystory), with my husband playing the piano, etc. But, of course, we miss our daily trips to London.... 

I find really difficult to reconcile my job with my duties at home: I like to have a clean and tidy flat and I like to cook (with not so wonderful results, but I do my best); the only problem is that I cannot find the time to arrange everything. So, in these last days I've been frequently nervous. I'm still looking for a solution! Also, I would like to have a walk around my home to discover all the shops and markets.

Anyway, to have my home again, with my husband obviously, is great. I'm glad.


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23 gennaio 2011 7 23 /01 /gennaio /2011 17:54

I've certainly told you about the troubles I've had since the beginning of this new year: went from Cambridge (UK) with many boxes and suitcases (and many other to be sent...) in the very first days of January, saw bad flats in Florence with a concerning depression mood, found a nice flat just before going crazy, had lots of problems with this old and stubborn landlord.


But let's talk about something I didn't mention above: I'm staying at my parents'.... So I've temporarily lost part of my freedom and I've had to change my recently acquired habits, as I could not do what I would in my parents' home.


Although they are very kind persons and they have been pleased to host my at home again (or, anyway, this is what they said), I obviously miss my independence and the life with my husband. He’s going to came back Italy next Friday and by that day I hope our normal life and way to live will be re-established.


I miss simple aspects of an independent existence: for example to cook, to read a book on my own sofa (which is actually my landlord's sofa, but as I rent it it's also mine!), to eat and wake up the time I like (well, of course according with my working table...) and, I don't know, to give water to my cyclamens (oh, I forgot to tell you that my husband bring them here in Florence during Christmas! One of them is almost dead, unfortunately, and the other one is quite sick... but I'm hopeful for their future).


I know I've been highly lucky to have my parents ready for help me, but I need my independence back.... Just hope everything ok for tomorrow with the sign of the contract.

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19 gennaio 2011 3 19 /01 /gennaio /2011 17:46

This evening I went home from work quite early because I felt a little unwell (with a fastidious bellyache) and I would like to have my private bathroom ready for necessity!

So, now I've got some unexpected free time and I'm here in my bedroom, sitting in front of the desk, in the gracious company of one of my parent's cats (who is not paying attention to me, actually: he's just looking for new games in the room without fortune....) and with the time to write here some considerations about human behaviour, a subject that is giving me lots of troubles in these days.

The fact is that I'm about to rent a new flat here in Italy but although this should be a very easy thing, I have many problems with the landlord, which is highly stubborn. Everyday there is a new problem to solve and I'm really tired of this unpleasant situation.

So I was thinking that, apparently, people often do their best to cause you trouble and seem to have fun with it. But why everything has to be so complicated? Also what should be simple and fast must become hard... Life should be easier, at least in ordinary things, because we've got lots of other problems which are sometimes impossible to be solved (see at health, for example).

Well, people is frequently stubborn: nothing new under the sun! In any case, tomorrow morning I'll meet the landlord to point out some aspects of the contract but I'm so disappointed.... I hope I'll be calm!

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7 gennaio 2011 5 07 /01 /gennaio /2011 19:07

Finally it happened: we moved away from Cambridge.

These are very sad days and I'm also quite tired. We had to prepare lots of boxes and to send them to Italy: there are still some boxes right now in Cambridge, waiting to be sent here....

Also, I had to clean the flat and I had to do it very carefully, because I really would like to have our deposit back but the flat should be perfectly cleaned and preserved.

My husband is still in Cambridge now, with some work to finish before departure: luckily he's now host in a friend of us's flat, so I'm quite happy of this temporary solution. 

I have already started again with my old job and that perfect sense of peace and freedom I once felt in UK is now gone... but it's also good to have my job back!

Well, today I'm home and I think I should check at least the box of the piano... In the next week I should sign the contract for a new flat in Florence, which is really nice, and then I'll move there and prepare it for my husband welcome!

 

That's all folks! I'm going to check the piano!!!

 

See you!



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30 dicembre 2010 4 30 /12 /dicembre /2010 10:37

These are dreadful days for me and my husband: we have spent Christmas in Italy, with our relatives, and now we are back in Cambridge to arrange everything to move house. We've had chaotic days in Italy becouse we had to buy Christmas presents, to visit people and, most important, to find a new flat. At the end I was so tired that I also forgot the flat's keys of our house in Cambridge in my home in Florence.... with many consequent troubles that I don't want to tell you here!


So, finally, we are leaving England. And I don't know if we are going to come back here in the future or not.... maybe not.

 

I am afraid these are my very last days here on the "big island".

 

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There are lots of aspects to be considered in this situation. First of all, I love Cambridge and it's incredible sad for me to move away. I can't explain exactely how I feel now: something nostalgic is fighting to exit from my heart, but I am also fighting against it to remain calm and wait... because I actually don't want to admitt that I must act, I must see what I haven't seen, I must listen and try what I haven't yet tried.

 

I would like to have the possibility to live both in Italy, for my relatives which I obviously love, and in England, for its beauty and peculiarity.


There are so many places I still have to visit: for example the Lake District (were Beatrix Potter spent a great part of her life). And I am planning a trip there in the next June!

 

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Or maybe I'd like to visit the Northumberland , were somethimes I think I would like to spend my old age, living in the countryside and breeding sheeps.

 

Northumberland muro adriano But it's a  fact, anyway, that we are moving. My husband will contniue to spend in England some days every month, for his work. For me, technically no... but I don't know.

 

In any case now we must start packing the great number of things we have in our flat!!! It will be hard and probably we will have to send some boxes in Italy because it's impossile to arrange the moving by plane only.

There are also some minor problems: my husband took the flu and I don't feel at my top too.

 

But the real question is: what's happening in Cambridge while I'm writing?

 

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Well, the river Cam is still beautiful, even if it's winter and the nature is not so flourishing as in the pitcure!

I'll miss the spring here because she's quite different from the one in Italy: here spring is longer and with more flowers and this is because Italy is warmer and summer comes fast.

 

Well, I think I really have to go: there are so many things to arrange that I don't know where to start!

 

 

See you later with (I hope) good news from my moving.

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29 dicembre 2010 3 29 /12 /dicembre /2010 18:20

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Cambridge under snow: the Claire's College bridge.

 

So lovely....

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